Saturday, August 18, 2018

I may fail, but I am never a failure.

See below for the graphic that inspired this cat. Making mistakes and failing to do things right (especially the first time) is what learning is all about! Use feedback from your mistakes and failures so that you can do better next time: you are never a failure when you learn from your mistakes.

I may fail,
but I am never a failure.

Students are never failures. They may experience failure, learn from failure, grow from failure. But they are never defined by failure. Find out more about Andi McNair.

Thursday, August 16, 2018

Think about where you'd like to go.

This cat is inspired by a quote from Carol Dweck's book Mindset: "As you read, think about where you'd like to go and which mindset will take you there."

Think about where you'd like to go.

Wednesday, July 18, 2018

I allow myself to do things imperfectly.

This cat was inspired by Celestine Chua's advice on coping with perfectionism.

I allow myself to do things imperfectly.

To find out more, see How To Overcome Perfectionism by Celestine Chua. I've transcribed the graphic below.

How to Overcome Perfectionism
1. Be a healthy perfectionist (Commit to your goals, but don't let failures define you)
2. Remove the all-or-nothing mindset (Allow yourself to do things incompletely and imperfectly)
3. Avoid the perfectionist's mind trap (Don't focus on unimportant information and requisites)
4. Learn to respect and love yourself (You are the only constant in your world)
5. Use your ideals as guides, not absolutes (Don't attach yourself to them)
6. Value your relationships (Allocate time for your relationships)
7. Celebrate the victories and progress made (Every step is a job well done!)
8. Delegate and let go (You don't have to do everything yourself)

This is feedback I can trust.

Check out the graphics below for the key role played by trust in feedback situations.

This is feedback I can trust.

I first found this 2x2 diagram by John Spencer at Twitter:

positive feedback, negative trust: flattery
positive feedback, positive trust: affirmation
negative feedback, negative trust: hating
negative feedback, positive trust: critical feedback

And then in response I saw this more detailed diagram from Kim Scott:

care personally, no challenge:
ruinous empathy -> ignorance, no change

care personally, challenge directly: 
radical candor -> trust, profound change and growth

do not care personally, no challenge:
manipulative insincerity -> mistrust, no change

care personally, challenge directly:
obnoxious aggression -> defensiveness, little change

In the dark I seek the light.

I used a lovely cartoon from Grant Snider (below) to inspire this cat, and Grant Snider explains at his website that he was "inspired by the essay "Notes on Failure" from the excellent book The Faith of a Writer by Joyce Carol Oates."

In the dark I seek the light.

The Specter of Failure
It haunts me while I work. You think you're a writer?
Follows me on walks. You're wasting your time.
Wakes me in the middle of the night. No one will read you.
I try to outrace it. You'll never escape me.
To hide from it.
Still it finds me. Your words are worthless.
I try to shut it out. I'm still here.
It multiplies. Give up! Give up! Give up! Give up!
So from now on, I'm embracing failure.
Stop! It's futile! Who cares? Why? A waste of paper.
Because without its dark abyss, how could I chase the luminous?